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PARENT JOURNEY

I need help managing screen time at home

A course to rediscover simple guidelines, reduce stress and restore screens to their rightful place in family life.
In many families, screens are gradually taking up more space than we ever imagined: when the children wake up, during meals, at homework time, and before bed. This guide has been designed to help you better understand what is going on, move away from a cycle of constant conflict, and re-establish a calmer and more sustainable routine.
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Frame
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COURSE SUMMARY

In this course, you will find

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Some insights into why screens take up so much space.

02

Some tips for identifying what is really going on in your family.

03

Tips for setting clear boundaries without causing more conflict.

04

Ideas for creating screen-free time.

05

Tips for avoiding parental guilt.

06

Practical suggestions for restoring balance to everyday life.

07

Guidelines for managing the role of screens in family life.

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Simple steps to make progress without changing everything at once.

THE REAL QUESTION

The real issue isn't just 'how long'

Beyond the duration, three questions provide a more accurate understanding of how the material is used.
QUESTION 01

The time of day: at what point in the day is screen time taken?

Upon waking, during meals, before bed, during quiet moments. The time of day matters just as much as the duration.
QUESTION 02

The effect: what impact does screen time have afterwards?

Fatigue, irritability, difficulty getting back to normal activities, family tension. The effect becomes apparent afterwards, not whilst using the screen.
QUESTION 03

The function: what is the screen trying to achieve in this moment?

To ease tension, relieve boredom, avoid conflict, or fill a void. Identifying the function helps us to suggest an alternative.
CHECK BEFORE CHANGING

The times when screens take up the most space

Observing doesn’t mean standing idly by. Observing helps us understand where action is needed.

In the morning

Before leaving.

After school

Upon return, a decompression chamber.

During homework

Distractions and interruptions.

During meals

Family moments interrupted.

Tired times

When energy levels drop.

Parents' quiet time

When the parent needs a break.

Before bed

Staying up late.

Any spare moment

As soon as a downtime appears.

UNDERSTANDING BEFORE ACTING

It’s no coincidence that screens take up so little space

Screens often serve very practical purposes. The aim is not to demonise them, but to ensure they do not become the default solution to everything.
8 needs that the screen fulfils
Keep a child occupied
Ease tension
To keep waiting
Avoid conflict
Give a moment of peace
Fill a void
Strengthen bonds with others
Distract yourself quickly
BREAK THE CYCLE

Reducing tension without turning every moment into a battle

Many families find themselves in the same situation, unable to break free. Recognising it is the first step towards breaking free.
Step 01
We let them get away with a bit
Step 02
It gets out of hand
Step 03
We get annoyed
Step 04
We make threats, we cut them off
Step 05
The child shuts down.
Breaking out of this cycle means establishing a clearer framework from the outset and avoiding endless negotiations.

The most useful moments to capture first

Meals
Homework
Bedtime
Family time
The transitions
Night
OUR STUDY
51%

parents say they are interested in a support program for screen management.

OpinionWay survey for The Phone — Sample of 1004 parents of children aged 6 to 14
PRINCIPLE OF THE FRAMEWORK

A good framework isn't complicated: it is clear and workable

Fewer rules, but ones that are followed. That’s the secret to a lasting framework.

WHAT DOESN'T WORK

A frame that's too heavy

  • Forgotten after a few days.
  • Constantly renegotiated every time it’s used.
  • No longer respected as soon as something disrupts the week.

Too many rules = no rules.

WHAT MATTERS

A simple, clear framework

  • No screens during meals.
  • No screens in the bedroom at night.
  • A set time after homework.
  • Certain devices only at home
  • Certain screens only in communal areas.

Few rules, but they’re well observed.

CHILDREN OBSERVE

Parents also need guidance when it comes to screen time

Children don’t just remember what they’re told. They remember what they see. And what they see on a daily basis quietly shapes their relationship with screens.

When parents look at their phones during meals.

When a screen interrupts a conversation in progress.

When the television is left on without anyone watching it.

When everyone retreats into their own screen.

OUR STUDY
32%

parents admit to spending time on their phones during family moments.

OpinionWay survey for The Phone — Sample of 1004 parents of children aged 6 to 14

CONSISTENT, NOT PERFECT

Setting an example doesn’t mean being perfect

Parents don’t need to be flawless. They need to be consistent.

Five simple ways to ensure day-to-day operations align with the established framework.

Put your phone away during meals.

Avoid screens during certain family times.

Let everyone know when you’re using your phone for a specific purpose.

Set aside screen-free time for everyone.

Accept that things won’t change overnight.

GIVE SPACE BACK

Reducing screen time also means making room for something else

Disconnecting isn’t just about stepping back. It also works when we make room for something else.
9 activities to bring back into your life
Board game
Reading
Walk
Kitchen
Sport
Music
Creative activity
Invite a friend
Family Ritual

WHAT MAKES THINGS SPIRAL

Common Mistakes to Avoid

Seven pitfalls that make reframing more difficult than it needs to be.

  • Trying to tackle the whole issue of screen time in one go.

  • Imposing too many rules at once.

  • Only talking about screen time when arguments arise.

  • Using screen time as an automatic solution to every problem.

  • Making the child feel guilty without examining the family situation.

  • Making parents feel guilty instead of looking for realistic solutions.

  • Taking things away without providing alternatives.

IN SUMMARY

The aim is not to create a perfect, screen-free home. The aim is to find a more balanced, calmer and more mindful place.

CONTINUE THE JOURNEY

Moving forward step by step, methodically

Better screen management at home doesn't rely on a magic solution, but on simple guidelines, gradual adjustments, and a sustainable framework. Famille Reconnectée was designed to help you progress step by step, without guilt but with method.
You are not alone. You don't need to be an expert. There is no single answer.
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